…And the Bride DIED

On October 4, I concluded a deal with a wedding client that would have turned out to be one of the most interesting I’ve had this year. I covered the sister’s wedding 4 years ago and they insisted that it is “Seun Akisanmi” in person that they want to cover the one-day event. We had been talking for about 2 weeks but the deal was finally sealed on October 4. Or so I thought.

For a wedding that was supposed to hold before the end of the year, they ought to have dropped a part payment of at least 80% to help secure and lock down the date on my calendar. What made me more excited about the job was that the pay was good; good enough to help reduce my outstanding deficits. I gave thanks to God for the timely job.

And so it happened that I gave the client a call on October 12 to remind them about the importance of making a financial commitment. It was then I was told that the bride-to-be died on October 5 (the day after the deal was sealed). I was heartbroken twice: first for a selfish reason and secondly for the groom.

I wondered how the groom must have felt knowing that the person he was about to be married to died a few weeks before the wedding. And for reasons that perhaps could have been treated properly; malaria/typhoid. I was heartbroken because of the loss of financial resources that could have lifted some of my burdens. It was at that moment I realized that some people that weep at funerals do so for reasons beyond what people think. I realized some perhaps are heartbroken because the dead will not be able to pay back the N52 million debt he owed before his demise.

Beyond my selfish reasons, I realized the importance of the relationship I have with this client (and all my clients). I realized that every client that comes my way is for a specific purpose. Consequently, I asked myself the following question: Would this have happened if I had been praying for the client?

Perhaps if I had spent time praying for this client (something which I usually don’t do and only remember to do sometimes for selfish reasons), will the story be written thus? I’m not sure. Either way, I’m beginning to be more conscious of the spiritual aspect of my connections with people. I’m beginning to realize that every client, protege or mentor in my life is there for a reason. And the least I can do (without first considering the financial rewards that might come my way) is to pray for them.

The tragedy still weighs on my heart and I wondered if it could have been averted. At least I’ll be $3500 better if the bride had not died. God help us, God help us all.

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Different Types of SLAPS

“ but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also”. How easy it is to turn your other cheek for another round? When you are yet to recover from the very first one you received. Anyway, I am sure the quote is being used in other context not necessarily in a “slapping” way.

One statement and occurrence that kept coming my way this past week was Slap! Slap!! Slap!!! My colleagues at eloPhotos can bear me witness because one of them actually mentioned it too. And my Aunt in South Africa also made a statement about it.

I would like to concentrate on Nigerian mothers, Yoruba’s especially (one of the best when it comes to child upbringing). Yoruba mothers produce the best range of slaps: IGBATI, IFOTI, IGBAJU(Cheek Slap), IGBARUN, IFORUN (Neck Slap), IFAKUN (Stomach Slap), ILADI (Buttock slap), ABARA (Random back slap).

These slaps will make you think you were adopted or bought with a price.

IGBATI: this will make you correct your wrong immediately!

The beauty of IFOTI is, you will confess your sins on the spot.

IGBARUN, IGBAJU, and IFORUN will make you expose those who committed the crime with you without hesitation.

ILADI will make you pee in your new pants!

Now ABARA is the worst of it all because it comes randomly on you.

And apart from IGBAJU, we have a more advanced one which is IGBAJU OLOYI (Cheek slap that turns you 360°, it makes you see stars). When you receive this one, you will lose balance and your head will go into auto-search as you will be looking for what hit you. This will make you do all the actions of the other slaps above at once. You will even confess what you never did. Also, it can reset one to 3D (Deaf, Daft and Dumb).

God bless our parents for the “good” & interesting upbringing. You must have been wondering, what a title for a write up as this? I am sure there is a better one. I choose to write on this because of an experience I witnessed this past week, being at an event as a freelance photographer where someone was rendered a random slap.

I captured the scene anyways but not to be added to the album (except someone requests for such). This brings me to photographers who capture the not-so-good moments and end up including them in albums to be delivered to clients. Never make such mistakes to deliver such an album, especially for a wedding client; it will kill your brand.

Be wise during your post productions to select the best moments of an event. Your pictures should tell the good story. Whatever you do, be conscious of doing WHATEVERITTAKES to standout.

I remain Awosanmi Emmanuel, even as I look forward to the very week that the 7-hour photography workshop in 7-States in Nigeria begins.

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